In a world dominated by strong opinions and fast answers it is easy to forget the simple act of remaining open and curious when encountering otherness. Without a sense of wonder, we can rush to judgement and bypass transformative learning and growth. Similarly, when we give our answers and conclusions to young people, we can rob them of the rewarding process of working out difficult things for themselves. What we can do is guide them from ‘encounter’ to ‘wonder’ to ‘understanding’ to ‘action’. In this way we can help them develop their own unique pathways to wisdom and discernment. Pathways they can then follow without us.